Reply to Feel Betrayed by Sister

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Feel Betrayed by Sister"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]

If she marries this rich guy, she will personally be rich too by sharing in his lifestyle but it wouldn't  benefit us very much besides maybe getting nice Christmas presents once a year. Say, our little brother needs help with tuition, would she be comfortable asking her husband to finance her little brother's education? I think not.

[/quote]

Assuming that the quote above is from OP -

You do not seem like you are listening much, but instead are insisting on the correctness of your own values/plan/preferences as to what your sister does.  Not sure what benefit you thought you were going to get from this board if you are insistent on the belief that you are right.  I personally don't seek advice from strangers on the internet unless I am open to being swayed by what they say.[/quote]

I think it's hard for people to understand who don't come from families like she does, where every interaction is layered with obligation, duty, and love, where each generation defers satisfaction for the next and you feel guilty for any thought that doesn't convey these same ideas of duty and obligation and familial growth. I don't mean for it to sound as antiquated as I know it does. But she's reaction to the trees and not seeing the forest, she's so caught up in all the small little issues that are probably being raised by her family members that she's lost sight of the big picture regarding why any of this is happening in the first place. I know what it's like, OP. And I doubt you even know who you are or what you want, your sense of right and wrong and good and bad and likes and dislikes are so tied up in what you are supposed to think. You don't realize it, but you will. I hope it doesn't become a crisis for you as it did for me. I hope you are able to stop being a people pleaser and to realize that your parents will come to appreciate your strength and experience when you are able to stand up to them and articulate your own sense of right/wrong, good/bad, etc.

Best wishes.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics