Reply to Hostility to Name Change

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Hostility to Name Change"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd never say anything but secretly I think less of women who change their names.[/quote]

And you are part of the problem.  Why does it matter to you?[/quote]

Because their actions affect all of us.  When some women continue to bow to sexist traditions, other women are expected to follow suit.[/quote]

All well and good, but it is more important to me that I have the same name as my children than that I keep the name I had growing up.  Neither my husband nor I care enough to make this a cause  Worth identifying some hyphenated were newfangled name, so I took his name.   Also, I am now the step mother of his children from a prior marriage, and I am glad to share a last name with them as well.   I don't expect anyone to follow suit as you say.  And if I were to divorce, I would still keep the name I have now, again, because it is the last name of my young children.   That does not mean I am not a feminist, or that I am bowing it down to anything.  It means I have issues that are much more important to me to deal with, and I really couldn't care less about fighting the ingrained notion that names are patrilineal.   I am also a lawyer who has done significant pro bono work in defense of women in a variety of areas, have worked closely with human resources to improve conditions for women at my office,  including the normalizing and proper establishment of nursing facilities.   Instead of judging people, you may want to assume that each moment is making progress in her own way, and that you may be taking different paths that ultimately lead in the same direction. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics