Reply to DH friendships with women - what's your comfort level

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "DH friendships with women - what's your comfort level"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Ask for what I need. Ask for what I need. (Repeating this to myself.) And what I need from him is ok and not unreasonable. Just typing to myself here.

I also have never thought of myself as a jealous person. I hate playing this cliche role. But as 14:06 pointed out, the resentment I feel is real. and only stands to worsen.

Overall, he has done better at maintaining a night life/social life since DC was born since he is more of a night owl than I am. I will always choose sleep over a bar/party. He is willing to sacrifice sleep to be social. The result is that I stay home on saturday nights and he goes out (some times). So I am already resentful that he has this part of his life still in tact, while I don't. It's not really what I want for myself anymore - I don't WANT to be out at the bar - but I wish he didn't want it either. I wish he wanted to stay home with me.[/quote]

......who does he go out with on a Saturday nights?

The fact you are not thrilled with these dynamics is totally understandable.[/quote]

He usually goes out with his best guy friend, who happens to be single. In fact, the friend has gone on a date or two with the bookstore girls. That was DH's original explanation for having one of the girls' phone numbers was b/c he was setting the girl up with his friend.

He will tell me again and again how the girls are dating other people or whatever - like how Jen was coming from a Tinder date on sat night. Or Sally went on a date with DH's buddy. He thinks that should make me feel better about it. But the truth is that it doesn't.

I agree with the NP that we should do more dinners or evenings out together so that DH can scratch this itch he has, but do it with my company and not someone else's!

Here's the bummer, too. On sat night we did have a babysitter, one of the bookstore girls, "Sally". And DH and I went to a party together. But then at 10pm I went home to relieve Sally the babysitter, while DH went to the bar to watch the fight. and then Jen met up with him there. Sally and Jen are roommates.  So while i was paying Sally for babysitting, Sally's roommate was meeting DH at a bar.

I just find that embarrassing. right? like I'm getting played. Did sally and Jen get home on sat night and say, "hey while you were babysitting DH's kid, I met up with DH!" [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics