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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
I am so curious to see what the text thread looked like on Saturday night, whereby Jen comes out to meet DH at the bar. I was so so tempted to look at his phone yesterday but managed to resist, b/c i want to be able to come to this conversation from a position of non-crazy.  But I am tempted to ask him to show me the thread.

Or maybe I shouldn't get bogged down in the HOW. stick with the WHY is this happening? What is he getting out of it, and how can he get it elsewhere (either at home or with more appropriate friends)?

Has anyone had a convo like this with his/her spouse? [/quote]

Reading his phone texts is a slippery slope and an erosion of trust. I've BTDT and where does it end- I turned into a detective in my own freaking home. DH and I are back on track and have a good relationship now but it was a difficult time (no physical cheating). You need to have a conversation with him about boundaries. Even if the texts are harmless now, it doesn't mean that it can't evolve into an affair. That kinda thing happens all the time. OP you are completely valid in feeling uncomfortable and you have a right to talk to your spouse about this behavior. You are not a "wet blanket" or being controlling for asking him to respect the boundaries that you agree on.[/quote]

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