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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can you just tell him not t come to your office?
"Al, starting today I have decided that I don't want any visits to my office. It's distracting to my work.
I need you to email or instant message if you think you need my assistance"

This will do a couple things:
1. A paper trail if he starts to ramp up the unnecessary emails, so you can document and show a superior that Al is writing you 4x/day and has nothing to do with work, and can frame it as him needing redirection on who to go to for help and your workload, unnecessary work answering his questions since you say he doesn't need you
2. If he does come by in spite of this you can say "email Al" while not even looking up or say "email Al" while you walk away 
3. You can answer briefly if for some reason it is a legitimate work related request

Additionally, I think it will give your complaints more clout when you can say "here are 5 emails in one day that shouldn't have been written. I'm concerned not only because I am not involved in his work and these are unnecessary and distracting/time consuming, but that they point to some sort of inappropriate behavior from him to me personal when I notice him staring at me all the time."
And then you can go into the staring, stopping by your office 
when you told him not to, all that
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Thank you for this advice. Talking it to email
Is a good idea for me to appear cooperative while still getting him out of my office.[/quote]

Yes, and you don't have to tell him you find it creepy or address the staring. A simple "it's distracting" and direction to email is simple and to the point, and really can't be argued with or misinterpreted. 
It also avoids the very subjective and hard to describe nature of "stares a lot" (not diminishing, I'm sure it's creepy as hell) and replaces it with very documentable and specific instances you can print out and show a supervisor.
Also, it changes your future complaint from "he stares at me a lot in meetings" (how does that affect your work? How does that affect the company? What concrete steps can be taken?) to "he stops by my desk too much/emails and it is detrimental to my work" (obvious effect on your work, time being wasted by 2 workers so it affects the company, easier to address and identify the issue)[/quote]

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