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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is low drive.  Now I am too!  I fought for years for our sex life.  Now I've given up and I have little interest in having sex with him once a week on his schedule only.  He's drilled it into me that I can't rely on him for my sexual needs.  Finding out he had an affair was a slap in the face.  [/quote]

We're not there yet but I am afraid this is where DH and I will be in a few years (I don't think he'll have an affair although anything is possible).  He's low drive but on the rare occasions he wants sex, it has to be entirely on his schedule, exactly when he wants it and if I don't jump at the chance to do it right then regardless of how I'm feeling, then it's entirely my fault that we didn't have sex that day/week/whatever.

I used to think I was a high drive person but I can feel my drive dying day by day.  Soon it'll be gone then we'll both just be celibate life partners.[/quote]

Pp here.  Yes, this is exactly what happened to me.  Same story about when he wanted sex I had to jump and if I didn't he would get upset.  I'm so over sleeping with him and have zero interest.  He is a horrible and selfish lover.  I try to focus on the positive aspects of our marriage.  I'm generally attracted to him physically but have little interest in his mind games when it comes to sex.  I've never experienced so much drama before when it comes to sex.  With previous boyfriends I really enjoyed sex and we had it on a frequent basis.

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