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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is low drive.  Now I am too!  I fought for years for our sex life.  Now I've given up and I have little interest in having sex with him once a week on his schedule only.  He's drilled it into me that I can't rely on him for my sexual needs.  Finding out he had an affair was a slap in the face.  [/quote]

We're not there yet but I am afraid this is where DH and I will be in a few years (I don't think he'll have an affair although anything is possible).  He's low drive but on the rare occasions he wants sex, it has to be entirely on his schedule, exactly when he wants it and if I don't jump at the chance to do it right then regardless of how I'm feeling, then it's entirely my fault that we didn't have sex that day/week/whatever.

I used to think I was a high drive person but I can feel my drive dying day by day.  Soon it'll be gone then we'll both just be celibate life partners.[/quote]

I know exactly how you feel. We both started high. I got depression, went low, had the talk, bounced back, and we were both high for years. Now he's low, we've had the talk, it gets better for a week then nothing. I never say no, because I fee like if I say no, he will never offer again. Recently he initiated a sex talk because I didn't do some things for him that I didn't know he wanted, and he didn't want to ask. No mind you, when he asked in the past, I never said no. He just didn't want to ask. So the talk was basically that sex was boring and infrequent with me. All I could think is how many times have you rejected my advances in the last 3 years, and not only do you want me to keep initiating (knowing it's a fail most days) but you want me to be more creative? Ugh. [/quote]

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