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"A few months to replenish"? He's been staying home for EIGHT YEARS. He should have been doing this stuff the whole time, but now he should get time to replenish, during which time OP will continue to do these things?

I work 50 hours a week. My husband works 60 hours a week. I do the grocery shopping. He does the laundry. If one of us is having a particularly long day or week, the other one picks up the slack. Neither one of us would ever pull the dinner crap that the OP's husband pulled. If DH and the kids ate all the dinner before I got home for whatever reason, he would make something for me (even if it was just a grilled cheese sandwich) as soon as I got home. [/quote]

You are totally missing the point.  Neither you nor your husband had FT care of your children when they were young.  I'm not talking about laundry and groceries.  I'm talking about the exhausting, unrelenting work of FT care for young people.  You have never done that.  Neither has your husband.  You went to work and got loads of adult time and solo time.  It is not the same thing.  [/quote]

You are correct that neither one of us SAH with the kids when they were young, but I really don't see how that is germane to this situation. The tasks still need to get done. The person who is working full time at an office is doing those tasks, in her hours outside of that office. The person who is staying home with the young children is only rarely doing those tasks and is filling up the time when the children are not around with leisure activities. Going to my office is not the same thing, relaxation-wise, as sitting around playing video games. One of those things is work. One of time is not. The person who is working should not have to pick up the chore-slack from the person who is not working simply because it is tiring to care for young children.

Unless what you're telling me is that no one who stays home with children under school age is able to do laundry or do the grocery shopping regularly. Is that what you're saying? I'm not saying that he should get ZERO free time. I'm just saying that he currently has a lot more free time than she does and the balance of free time could be evened out a little bit by him using some of his free time to go to the damn grocery store every week.[/quote]

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