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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The OP's and one of the PP's attitudes are so sad to me. Remind me of my MIL.

I am white, but ethnically mixed, from an extended multiracial family of VERY varying SES. DH is Asian American and grew up upper middle class+ in the DMV. This thread makes me so grateful that he appreciates and wants our child exposed to Asian Americans and other POC of "lower" SES, recent immigrants, etc. Because YES, our child DOES have "something in common" with refugees from Burma and what-have-you. Or even "lower" class folks with a different immigration trajectory from my husband's own country. Not to mention Latinos, poorer black folks, etc. Sigh. [/quote]

Asian-American here. I respectfully disagree. I don't think my 3rd generation Asian-American child has much in common with a Burman refugee. That's like saying you have a lot in common with a Caucasian Cuban refugee. Just because you are both white doesn't mean you should be grouped in the same group.

That being said, my children have friends from various backgrounds including many mixed children.[/quote]

Doesn't mean you "should" be grouped...?  Who is forcing anyone else to do this? Do what you want.

None of this white people stuff is analogous IMHO, though I'd be happy to be grouped with a white Cuban refugee, thanks. That said, in our family, we think it's important to be connected to your roots AND to other people of your racial/nearby national groups (knowing your history) AND to be connected to people of all races and SES, but we are particularly interested in solidarity among POC. If you are "colorblind," hey, whatever floats your boat. Realistically, I know my child will be grouped with those Burmese refugees and other Asian groups and other POC, and I want her to feel like that's cool, and that she shares *some* bond (not *all* bonds) vs. distancing herself because "I'm not like THOSE Asians/POC." We are attempting to steer away from the internalized racism and internalized classism we have seen in parts of my husband's and others' families.     [/quote]

^^This is me. To be clearer, she may have *more* in common with people other than Burmese refugees-- I'm not denying that. But we want her to see what she *does* have in common with them, and to be proud of that, too.[/quote]

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