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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A controlling husband is someone demanding you do things he himself would not do.

If he wants access to your email, phone, texts, Facebook, whatever, then he has to let you look at his.

If he goes to the gym, guy night out, whatever, then you have that too.

If he spends money without talking to you about it, then so can you. No matter which one of you brings in the money.

An equal marriage is a quid pro quo marriage.

Anything else is borderline abuse or actual abuse. There should be no power struggle and he is NOT your daddy.[/quote]

Wow this is a pretty stupid definition of "controlling."

Do you actually mean to say that both parties to a marriage must all do exactly the same thing?  That they shouldn't do different chores or tasks based on their respective strengths and weaknesses?   If I'm a great cook, and my wife is a klutz in the kitchen, we both need to cook an equal amount of meals?   If she's better at child care than I am, much more efficient at those tasks, we should each do an equal amount of it?

You know the notion of tit for tat or quid pro quo is actually a very destructive concept to any relationship, and taken literally, as you and many others seem to have, the notion pretty much dooms a relationship to failure, because your unrealistic expectations will inevitably be disappointed sooner or later.[/quote]

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