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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the question is framed wrong. Would I still be in a relationship with my husband if we didn't have children? No. Knowing how I was pre-marriage, it was just easier to cut and run. But since we do, I have spent a lot more energy and time working on the relationship, working on my own expectations of what "love" is, working through our rough patches. It's been a long 30 years. But what I will say is that looking back, I am glad the children were there. They forced me to dig deep and really try. I think my marriage, especially in this stage now, with the kids gone and us retired and working part-time and traveling has been tremendous. I can see how the child years can break a couple. But if they can get through it with kindness and respect, there is something amazing on the other side.
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Thank you for this.  DH and I going through a really hard time.  We are trying to work it out but it is slow and frustrating.  It gives me hope to read that if you can come out on th other side, it can be amazing.  Like you, I would no longer be with him without the kids.[/quote]

Happy to share, PP. It really is better on the other side of things. But it took both of us committing to kindness and patience and respect. That took us a long way and made the issues that seemed insurmountable fixable.[/quote]

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