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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are the consequences of this behavior?  Does he have a cell phone, video games, or outside activities that get taken away?  Do you make sure there are no electronics in his bedroom.  Have you take the hinges off his door because he lost privacy?

Because I would never in a million years tolerate that mental/physical abuse you are allowing to take over your home.  You need someone to come into the home, evaluate the entire situation and take over with advice/solutions.  A home counselor.  Similar to Super Nanny.  I remember people posting recommendations here awhile back.  Something went wrong somewhere and it needs to be fixed ASAP. [/quote]

I am so glad you think you wouldn't tolerate the situation and that clamping down is the answer.  Don't you think we tried that?  Talk to me when you have a child in your life that might have a mental illness. It's nothing like the parenting books, or how we were parented, etc. could prepare you for.  It is heartbreaking, overwhelming, and awful.  And it is the judgement of people like you that make the whole thing that much more painful and isolating.   It's easy to armchair quarterback.  I did it myself before being in this situation.  And let me tell you it is humbling like you cannot imagine.  [/quote]

Well if you are the OP and have put up with all of this without getting mental counseling and are saying you don't want to live with him,  that is YOUR fault for not dealing with it.

And I am going to guess the kid still has all of his electronics, has a door on his bedroom, and has a cell phone to use whenever he pleases.  [/quote]

If mental illness was treated by taking away cell phones and doors to bedrooms, what a wonderful world it would be! [/quote]

How do we know OP's kid has a mental illness?  She hasn't said he has nor has she gotten him the psychiatric evaluation to check it.  In the meantime, I am going to guess OP's son still has all of his privileges because it is easier to do so.  [/quote]

She already said that they've done counseling for years!  Yes, she needs to go to family counseling, and have him go to a psychologist and psychiatrist, but that doesn't mean her parenting is at fault.  Taking away privileges does NOT fix mental illness.[/quote]

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