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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It really pains me that privates in this area are so prejudiced against kids with ASDs.  I don't think the same thing is true in other areas of the country. For example I'm sure in college towns that if you exclude kids who appeared to be Aspergers or had diagnoses already you would miss some brilliant children of math and physics professors!  [/quote]

Excellent point! Let me add another.  I think it is generally accepted that the earlier the interventions, the more likely they will be helpful for ASD kids.  Some posters above had kids not diagnosed until they were older, while others had kids diagnosed at 4 or 5.  The ironic impact of the surprisingly still wide spread relative ignorance about ASDs in private schools is this --  families that are most on top of this with their kids at younger ages have the best possible prognoses for their children all other things equal, are these kids are the most likely to be excluded from schools without a fair shake.  Families who report they had no idea their child was ASD until a teacher in 2d or 3d grade explained that their child is not interacting with other kids at all and is exhibiting other tell tail signs, are often already in privates when the seek intervention.  And families who do not seek interventions for their children even as issues are becoming more obvious later in elementary school may actually manage to get these kids into a private that supports each individual child even though such a child is more likely to be more disruptive in some instances than the child diagnosed at age 5 who has had 4 year of therapy, but may not be considered at some privates because they claim to be ill equipped to deal with autistic children.  The only serious problems my diagnosed HFA kid ever had in elementary school was having to deal with other special needs kids who were not diagnosed and had not yet received adequate interventions.  I can't tell you how many times a teacher or administrator initially assumed the problem was my child's oversensitivity to the kid with poor impulse control and was either moderately ASD with no intervention or severely ADHD with no meds because my HFA child was actually more verbal about what bothered him than other children.  But half way through the school year, they would finally start hearing about the problem from parents of other NT kids who finally started to realize that so much class time was wasted they may not get to go on field trips or they were getting too much homework or they got a bad test grade because they couldn't get help from a teacher to explain something because they were dealing with the same kid over and again disrupting class.   Eventually, those kids were usually asked to leave the school after a couple of years, but our child was still seen differently -- stigmatized -- and his views discounted initially on a wide range of issues because he previously had an IEP.  I am so glad those years are over!

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