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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get a Keurig. [/quote]

Nope. Why would you create environmental waste, spend extra money, or use a piece of equipment you don't want/need to cater to a FIL who is acting like a spoiled brat?

WHY should OP go out of her way to further accommodate this obnoxious man?[/quote]

NP, but i'll chime in. It's very tough for people to change after a certain age, they are more inflexible. If there are small things like this that you can do, to help avoid conflict, you do them. Yes he is completely wrong, but believe me it's not worth the drama.[/quote]

Another card-carrying member of Doormats R Us[/quote]

:mrgreen: Hardly a doormat. I used to be very outspoken and assertive. I have tweaked my approach a little, and find that I still get what I want without damaging the relationship. Clearly OP should not make extra cups of coffee or cater more to FIL. But you know, if getting a Keurig, or doing some other thing that does not require a lot of time of energy can make him feel more welcome, she should do it. There are bound to be be bigger things, where she will really need to draw hard lines, this just isn't one of them in my opinion. [/quote]

Buying a Keurig she doesn't want or need is not reasonable. Her going further out of her way is not reasonable. His behavior is not reasonable. Women should not be encouraged to cater to unreasonable men.

We could be friends.   :) I, too, believe that you don’t go out of your way to damage a relationship.  Sure, the other person may be “in the wrong,” but sometimes it is just better to be kind than to be right.  It makes for a better world.  [/quote]

how is not making coffee "going out of your way to damage a relationship"?  This is really a strange comment.

She is taking care of a newborn for crying out loud.  Thank goodness all my and DH's family gets this.[/quote]

Not making the coffee is not the issue.  It is the advice the OP is getting from some of the people here. 
Were she to say or do some of the things suggested, she would likely irrevocably damage the relationship. 
I guess some people here just think it is more important to be passive aggressive, or outright bitchy, then to approach things in a reasonable manner.  [/quote][/quote]

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