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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've lived in the DC area my whole life. I've been applying for out of state jobs and I got a job offer in Florida. I've always wanted to move to Florida so it would be the perfect opportunity. The only problem is my ex wife has full custody of our daughter (I get every other weekend with her). I don't want to be one of those dads that only sees his kid a few times a year like my dad was. I talked to my ex and asked her if she would consider moving and she told me hell no. Then said I was being selfish for ruining our family and then asking her to follow me so I can live my dream. It's not about her, it's about our daughter, but she doesn't want to see it that way. Do you think this is a selfish request?[/quote]

What kind of visitation is every other weekend? You only see her two times a month?! How did that happen?[/quote]

I originally wanted joint custody, but her lawyer told her either she wouldn't get child support or would have pay me if we did this arrangement.[/quote]

This makes no sense.  Child support goes by income and time share.  If you give her full custody with little time share, then yes, you pay a higher child support.[b] One has to assume she makes more money than you if she'd have to pay child support.[/b]

You have these options (and yes, you are selfish for asking):

1) stay
2) go and pay for plane tickets for you/your child full cost as you are the one who choose to move away.

If you expect her to move, you need to pay for all moving costs, any losses if she owns/sells her house or to get out of her lease and all living expenses/income replacement until she gets a job and if she gets a lower paying job, the difference to cover that expense as well as if you are going to a higher cost of living area, then pay the difference in the housing costs.[/quote]

She makes about 20k more than I do.[/quote]

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