Reply to Whats the deal with my inlaws and food?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Whats the deal with my inlaws and food?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a relative like this - largely her fluctuations in appetite are due to side effects of a medication, but some days she wouldn't ever drink water if I waited for her to accept one of my offers. I think just stop asking if they're hungry or thirsty. Bring them a glass of water to welcome them. Set a place for them at the table whenever you're serving a meal. If you've made a snack or an appetizer, hand them one and don't think about whether they'll serve themselves more.

Just have a flexible meal schedule while they're here. Make enough for them to fully partake. Make food that packs well as leftovers in case they don't. And for your own sanity, don't engage in the discussion of food with them. They'll eat or they won't, but they won't starve themselves. Just make the food available.[/quote]

Thanks, this is good advice, and some other PPs have said the same.  I know now that this is probably the best approach to take with them.  Don't ask questions, just put the food out.[/quote]

It's the approach my Dr recommended when my daughter seemed to be on a hunger strike and wasn't growing. I'd beg and plead for her to eat. I'd cook her favorite foods. Dr said - just put the food out and don't say a word. As a mother, it was so hard to do, but I committed to trying it for a week and by the end, she was eating less than I thought was reasonable, but at least she was eating something and there were no more battles at meal time. Next time I took her to the Dr, she had gained 2 lb.

It works, but it's not easy. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics