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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter had severe anxiety at that age and would not play at someone else's house. I was always totally up front with other parents about that though- otherwise it does feel one sided and the dynamic is off. [/quote]

Hi, I have single DD and I don't allow her to go over to anyone's home.  We do invite other kids over.  Like this PP, I am clear about it.  When asked I say we don't allow our child to go to someone else's home. It is cultural, period.  Other parents understand and if they don't oh well.  OP I think the problem here is that the parent was never clear.   She didn't have to go into detail, all she had to do was say it.  I don't pick up cues over texts either, I would have thought they were just a busy family.  My best friend is always busy so I have to schedule her weeks ahead of time.  But I know that.  [/quote]

This is OP, I think I am good reading social cues.  The first play date at their house the mom and I talked and laughed a lot.  It was fun, both parents were there and seemed great.  In between all my text attempts to schedule a play date she has texted me a few times asking about class assignments and once asking how I felt about something the teacher was doing in the class.  At school if she sees me she comes over and we chat and vice versa. It always feels friendly, that is why I didn't think anything of it until I tried to schedule face to face and saw her getting flustered and then I got it.  I think it would have been different had she just said it from the beginning. It would have felt more honest and less strange. My kids are not allowed to sleep over until middle school, that is a rule in our household. My oldest started sleeping over his friend's homes this year. We just say it straight up when the invitations come for our two youngest.  We let them stay late so they don't feel they miss out too much and then pick them up.  We haven't had sleepovers yet, but will for our oldest's birthday for the first time. Like I said before, this is the first time I have encountered this situation.  Thanks for all the responses (nice and not so nice ones!)[/quote]

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