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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the context really matters. Do they drop by unannounced? How many times per week do they visit?[/quote]

I would say on average[b] 2 to 3 times a week[/b]. What normally happens is that one person will ask me if they can drop by our house for a few, but before I know it it's a party. They normally call each other up to see who else want to tag along. That part annoys because 1. I am not great with surprises 2. I get overwhelmed with a big number of unexpected visitors 3. Feeding picky/high maintenance in-laws is not easy.

I do stock some of their favorite snacks in my panty and leave it out on the kitchen counter or dining table. [b]They just stare at it saying how snacks won't do it for them. [/b]

This is just me but i never expect anything other than a bottle of water when I visit them. If I am hungry I wil try to eat something before I get to someone's house not unless I have been invited for a meal.

I think I am just starting to get resentful of the whole thing. The other day BIL stopped by, I greeting him and he was like " I am starting." I work from home so I have a little flexibility but I don't want to be preparing a meal at 3 PM on a weekday.

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(1) When they call and ask if they can drop by, tell them no.
(2) When they stare at the snacks and say "That's not going to do it for me," say, "Oh, well, feel free to help yourself to the cold cuts and cheese in the fridge.  Dinner is in X hours, and we're having Y.  Speaking of which, I need to finish up this project now so I can start dinner on time."  Then leave.  And don't change your planned dinner.  
(3) When they walk in your house and announce that they are starving, see (2).

It's not okay to show up at someone else's house and demand that they cook you a meal to your liking.  [/quote]

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