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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to tell your husband about this if you have not already.

You need to stop participating on the boards on those racing websites (except anonymously). You should occasionally to see if he is posting questions or saying slanderous things about you.

Begin entering ALL races under an assumed name so that he can not see your name anymore; explain to the organizers that you are having a problem with another runner and that you need your name not to appear.

Change your phone number(s).

Get a security alarm, because if you do all of the above all he will still have is your address. That is a bit worrisome.

Stop telling yourself he is harmless. People can be healthy, good looking, seem nice, and actually be quite harmful. I'm not saying he is, but he's as a damn good a candidate for this type of person, it seems.

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I agree with all this, and would add a few things:
Scrub all online mentions of you that you can. If you have social media, it's gone. Shut down linked in, see if you can get yourself off your company webpage (or at least your picture, whatever the case may be) If you can contact the website owner for the races, explain and ask to get your name off there. Google your name and do whatever you can to get yourself off anything that pops up.
This is painful, but I would stop going to races. Even if you enter anonymously he could still be there. I would play it safe and don't go.
Change your phone number or block all numbers he calls from
Change your email.

And yes you need to tell your husband.
And you need to go to the police and let THEM guide you in what kind of threat this is and what to do. There is no harm in going to the police, they are there for guidance and assistance just like any other agency. I don't understand the hesitation?[/quote]

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