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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks, everyone. I left a message with DD's teacher and hope to speak with her tonight. I am also going to say something to the girl's mom, since a PP was right that it's a bit strange for just two girls to be excluded and I am curious why.

I am sure she will get over this in time, just sucks in the moment. I made some plans for a few of DD's friends to come over this weekend and we will do something fun, hopefully that will help.[/quote]

I don't know that I would do this, OP. I mean this as gently as possible, but what do you stand to gain.  The parents must have been aware that they were excluding two girls.  Is doesn't take much empathy to realize how hurtful this is.  They just didn't care.  Confronting someone like that isn't worth your time.  What possible explanation can they give?[/quote]

Yes, don't speak to the party parent. Its actually none of your business who they chose to invite or not to their kids parties. You could find that approach blows up in your face and upsets you even more. Best leave that alone.[/quote]

I would not speak to the party parent [i]unless [/i]the birthday kid herself is one of the kids doing the "party crasher" teasing. If that's the case, then I would only address the teasing and [u]not[/u] the fact that your DD wasn't invited to the party. I would not ask, "Is something going on" or "Is there some reason DD and the one other girl weren't invited" etc. but would just note that the party crasher talk is going on and that your child and DH were at the rink by accident but she's taking it hard.

It's interesting to me that some PPs here are blithely saying, "Change schools!" as if that were easy or as if this merited such a drastic reaction. It doesn't. It's unfortunate but it's kid drama. The part that is toughest for your DD, though, is that because she is in a small class it is all blown way out of proportion -- if this occurred in a larger class in a larger school, it would be over sooner.
Just know that if this is the kind of school where the kids will be with the same group of kids year after year because there's only a class or two per grade, then this kind of thing takes on a larger, longer life than it would in a bigger setting. It's not a reason to change schools but is a reason to keep lines of communication open and to work with teachers, counselor etc. on general behavior -- counselors should be doing lessons on how to treat others and teachers should be tuned in to students' behavior so they can nip rudeness in the bud. 
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