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[quote=Anonymous]I'm in the "just go" camp, I think.  Are these invitations with the kids as well?  Or parents only?  And does your son have any opinions on them?

You say that it's like you were previously invisible, and now you're not...and I suspect that's kind of true.  Not invisible so much, but maybe not someone they thought they had something in common with.  This is similar to how you describe your initial assessment of them.  Now that your kids' are all friends, there's a clear commonality.  And if these are groups of people that vacation together etc, it seems pretty natural they would want to know their kids' new friend as well.    Do I think you should become their best friend and have your social life revolve around them?  I don't.  But a dinner invitation that gives you the opportunity to be on friendlier terms with the people who raised the kids your son spends a lot of time with...that sounds like a no brainer.

To give you an example, in middle school I was really close friends with another girl (we started to drift apart more in high school).  Our parents' had a little in common (same profession) but otherwise would not be friends.  During those years, though, they became more than superficially close.  They didn't socialize extensively, but my mom would often stop in and chat with her dad (they had a lot in common professionally) for a while when dropping me off and vice-versa.  Their friendship faded as ours did, but in the meantime I think this is just natural...and even nice for the kids.  I at least kind of liked the fact that my parents liked my BFF's parents even if they weren't besties.

Another thing I would note, though, is that there is an underlying tone to your OP that suggests you think these parents are somehow trying to ride the coattails of your son's popularity.  That's a really unhealthy way to think and even suggests that you yourself feel a little twinge of jealousy of your son's popularity (in fact, your whole post sets up the difference between your social life and his).  I don't think you have social anxiety, but maybe you're a bit insecure.  It might be worth exploring this a bit. [/quote]

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