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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son would go to the game.  I wouldn't put up with that BS from my MIL.  If she made a peep, she would get a point by point description of how we got to the part where my son will be going to the game.

1.  Party planned
2.  We informed coach that kid would miss game.
3.  You cancelled party for stupid reason
4.  You vetoed alternate family get together proposal
5.  We contacted coach and committed to game since family plans were *all* cancelled by *you*
6.  You are the reason we are going to the game.

If my husband wished to attend the party, he could attend with our other kids and that would be ideal.  [/quote]

I am genuinely having trouble following this reasoning.  MIL was annoying, yes.  MIL bad bad choices, yes.  Somebody may want to even point that out to her so she can potentially learn from it.

But why does that affect whether everybody goes to a 75th birthday party?  [b]Did FIL do something wrong here, for which he needs to be punished or "shown the error of his ways"?[/b]  The question comes down to whether it is too late to cancel on a middle schooler's committment to attend a sporting event.  If OP thinks it is, fine.  But the rest of it is really just about spite.  [/quote]

No. People have other commitments. MIL/FIL/everyone has to deal with that. When you cancel something, you cannot expect everyone to magically not have plans when you decide to reschedule it. I hate sports, but it sets a very bad example for the child to blow off his commitment because others could not get their act together.

He should go after his commitment is finished.[/quote]

I was responding to the poster who indicating that making a choice to go to the game was someone how all about making sure MIL knew she was to blame.  [b]I do understand the value of honoring commitments,[/b] and there is something to that.  But [b]OP already broke that commitment for this exact reason once before[/b], so obviously honoring this commitment to go to the game is not the absolute highest priority.  And I do not see how missing a sporting event to attend a grandparent's 75th birthday party sets a bad example.  No need to fill him in on all the drama with MIL.  [/quote]

It doesn't seem like you do. She said she gave lots of advance warning. To say he would actually be there, then cancel again in short notice, is not honoring a commitment.[/quote]

I know the child would not be honoring his commitment to go to the game if he does not show up.  But he wouldn't have been honoring his commitment if he didn't show up, even without the temporary cancellation of the birthday celebration.  It may be about manners, as it  is more polite to cancel on something with lots of notice.  But OP already said the coach will not care. commitment.[/quote]

What about personal commitment? Following through? Proving to be trustworthy?[/quote]

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