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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The only way you can do anything in terms of rehoming her is if they are found unfit and lose custody.  But as a PP noted, that will bring its own set of issues - including some serious psychological issues due to abandonment.  Kids aren't removed from a home just because there is someone who can parent them better than the parents they have.  The best you can all do is be there and be supportive.

I am the aunt of the grown up version of your niece and she has turned out to be a really great person.  So, it's not a given that your niece is doomed.  From the time my niece was born, my mom and I really pulled together for my niece and gave her opportunities.  We babysat whenever we were needed.  I once had her for a few weeks with no notice and no time to arrange Childcare while I worked.  My mom and I bought most of her clothes.  My mom took her grocery shopping every Sunday to buy breakfast cereal and food to pack for lunch.  I took my niece out at least once a month and took her on vacations each year.  We never missed a school function, even when I had to drive five hours each way.  When I lived far away, I sent cards and little gifts for each holiday. It might have only been heart shaped erasers and red pencils for valentines, but she knew she was important.  we bought all of her school supplies and paid for all field trips.  We paid for camps. I would bring her to my house and we'd bake and cook so she could learn.  I could keep going, but you probably have the idea.  One thing is that through all of her growing up, we never made her feel bad about her parents- we kept our thoughts to ourselves.  Even now that she's grown, I'd never share my feelings.  Investing in my niece is one of the best things I've done with my life.

Best to you and your family.[/quote]

This is amazing, God bless you.[/quote]

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