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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks everyone for your perspectives.  I am thinking we should take the approach of mildly explaining something about sexual behavior (not just people have sex to have babies).  But now I am thrown more for a loop with this discussion as in the car this evening my child reported more from classmates on this subject.  He said a classmate told him about a video of a "girl and her daddy having sex" and it was "so gross."  So my son said he responded by saying that it totally inappropriate and the friend said you can see the video at www.sexyboobies.com (or something like that).

WHAT?!?!?!?  I am so at a loss right now, on so many levels.  Is sex talk really fodder in second grade???[/quote]

Holy mother.  Let's talk more about this.  I agree with the following post that suggested talking to the teacher.  Someone in that class has way too much info about sex and it's not good.  maybe he has wonderful parents who need to be informed about a 13 year old older brother's computer habits or maybe he has awful parents, but someone should know and follow up on that.

I'd also reinforce with your son that sex is for adults, NEVER for kids, and never with someone in your family and he was right to feel that way and tell his friend it wasn't okay.  I'd say something like, there might be sexual videos on the internet that are not appropriate for kids and that's why our family has rules about computer/tablet use.  I'd reiterate that he did the right thing in talking to you about this when he has questions -- you will always answer his questions.  But you also want to keep him safe and are worried about his friends, "so please make sure you tell me when kids are talking about sex, so we can talk about it together."  (I think that'll last a year or two and realize there will be a point that my son (who's in first grade) won't talk to me about sex or conversations with his friends about it -- but for now I think he would and should, as long as I handle it okay).

All that said, I did know a very inappropriate joke at around second or third grade, but I really didn't understand it at the time (I didn't understand the mechanics that well, or why the joke was awful.  I just knew it was "dirty.")  But looking back on the joke now, it was actually really disturbing, about male power and coercing/forcing women into sex.  My son doesn't know any sexual jokes that I know of and he probably knows less about sex, in general, than he should right now -- I'm ready to answer, but he's never asked and I haven't initiated conversation.  Sometimes he tells me jokes with bathroom humor, but he doesn't even completely get those.

Good luck, OP.[/quote]

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