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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know why everyone is harping on you to be in this wedding.  No one is obligated to be in a wedding, and your SS ALREADY ACKNOWLEDGED IT MIGHT BE TOO HARD FOR YOU.  She has given you an out!  Take it![/quote]

Exactly!

OP, this sounds like a no-brainer to me.  Tell your stepsister that you're honored to be asked to be a bridesmaid, but with a small baby you cannot commit financially (or time-wise) to being in the wedding party; however, [b]you hope [/b]that you will be able to attend as a guest.[/quote]

I agree with all of this, but don't just "hope" to attend the wedding.  Make it a priority.  Is this your dad's stepchild? If DH can't come, maybe you could bring your mom to babysit.  Really, you can find a way to make it work.

But no, I don't think you have to be a bridesmaid.  Honestly, she was probably just trying to be nice.  I doubt she will be upset if you decline.[/quote]

+1.
She will probably be relieved if you decline to be a bridesmaid but try to come to the wedding.
People made some very good suggestions on how to word it. She gave you an out. Just tell her you are thrilled to be selected and you are sure she probably had to cut close friends who live nearby in order to select you. Tell her how honored you are, but with the baby and the distance it won't be the full experience, and she should use your spot for a close friend who can do all the bridesmaidy events.

What a relief.

And I had people close to me who couldn't come to my wedding for various reasons. I was not "hurt". You see them other times, during your marriage, which is more important than the wedding. You still love them.[/quote]

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