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[quote=Anonymous]Op, dcum loves rushing to judgment, but there is obviously a lot of history that none of us can fully grasp. So I am not here to determine if you are right or wrong. I certainly understand why you feel hurt but we don't have the grandparents' perspective. Who knows - maybe they had overbearing parents when their kids were little, or they have seen their friends destroy relationships with kids and grandkids by being invasive. So they thought they were doing the right thing by giving you space. Who knows.

But I agree with you that you reap what you sow. So take a close look at what you are teaching your kids. YOU might soon be the grandparents and you don't want to teach them that grandparents can be cut out of your life if you don't agree with the way they do things. Because I guarantee your kids will find something to hate about your grandparenting style!

So I would just sit back and let what happens happen. I see no reason to insert yourself into this. I would not stop them from visiting and I would leave it to them and the kids to work out their relationship moving forward. They have alot of time to make up for, but maybe they are up for it and will end up having a decent relationship with them. Kids and young adults have a lot to deal with and their world is bigger and more complex than ours was. They need all the unconditional love they can get so please don't deprive them of a grandparents love, no matter how flawed they are.

As for leaving to see friends, I would never let my kids leave relatives to see friends unless maybe they already had plans made before we knew of the visitors. It'sjust good manners. [/quote]

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