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[quote=Anonymous]Holy projection, PP. There are actually women who don't much care about weddings or whether they marry or not, when they're happy and solid in their relationship. I'm one. As a girl, I never daydreamed about a wedding or cared whether I would marry.

Also, there's nothing wrong with being the type of person who examines and tries to understand their feelings and why they are doing things. Just because you aren't given to that kind of thought doesn't make a more thoughtful person "exhausting" or desperate to be a special snowflake. It's just how they operate.

I can understand OP's pondering about whether it's okay for her to not be jumping up and down with excitement. She was happy in her relationship before and she's happy now. She may actually have mixed feelings about getting pregnant and all that having a child entails.

Her partner is one who feels that being married is a good idea if a couple wants to have a child. And he hopes for a child, with her, so marriage is his logical step and the reason he proposed.

Sometimes people are together a long time and then get married, and the proposal and wedding was an attempt to breathe life into a relationship that was actually winding down. (Same thing with couples mistakenly thinking a baby will make things better.) For that reason, OP is wise to look at her situation. Since they're both feeling good about things, it's probably going to be a good solid marriage. People I know who sound like the OP, and who went into marriage after long relationships have ended up as happy as ever. [/quote]

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