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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My in laws also want to spend every second with us.  If you get up to use the bathroom they might comment that you just went two hours ago.  MIL is a huge control freak.  She tries to pick where everyone sits (and my seat in the living area doesn't face the tv so I can't even zone out on that unless I get up and argue that I'm going to sit on the floor).  We aren't allowed to even grab a glass of water without asking permission, and she often says no.  There's no guest bedroom (we sleep in the living room on a pull out couch) so thus no escape.  When we tried to stay in a hotel she absolutely LOST it.  Holidays are the worst.  On the bright side, my kids don't seem to notice her quirks and absolutely love MIL.[/quote]

Whaaat?? Who are these people that would deny you the ability to get a glass of water? I'd be bringing a 24-pack of Poland Springs with me :)[/quote]

PP here -- I do, now!  There's always a bottle of water in my purse for our visits.  Sad, but true.[/quote]

I have so many questions. What justification do they give? Or do they just say "no" when asked for water? What would they do if you got up and got a glass yourself? What if you move your chair to see the TV?

Are they nice to you aside from this, or is their crazy control freakiness a symptom of hating you and wanting to make your life miserable?

Does DH recognize how odd it is? Does it bother him? Were they always like that? [/quote]

They're very nice, actually, just strange.  MIL has answered requests for water with "we're eating in an hour, you can get a drink then."  As for getting up and getting it myself, she'd say she isn't comfortable with people in her kitchen (which is true).  DH was never allowed to get himself a snack when growing up.  He always had to ask and his mom would get it for him.  Same today.  DH knows it's odd but it doesn't really bother him.  As for moving the chair, I wouldn't try because it's a heavy chair and wood floors.  I've pointed out that I can't see the tv and they've shrugged.  A lot of things go in one ear and out the other for them.  Now that we have kids, we bring our own bag of snacks so that helps.[/quote]

Um, I think I would be packing an entire cooler of my own food and just plunk it down right in the middle of the living room - making it rather obvious that this kitchen policy wasn't family friendly for us. I'd also lug around a giant jug of water.[/quote]

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