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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, have you asked her whether she would want to spend Christmas just the two or three of you (including your BF)?  If so, it's not that she's ditching you, it's that she simply would rather not this year be the +2 to your boyfriend's family holiday.  After all, you're already the +1 and she's just "part of the package" as you put it.

They certainly are gracious people to include her, but it's not wrong of her to feel like an outsider.  She's come in the past because she wants to be with you but it appears that you aren't reciprocating.
Once you are married to BF, how will it work? For many families, they alternate holidays between their families.  What if next year the two of you stay in town and celebrate with your sister (i.e. your family), and then spend Christmas with his family?

Rather than being angry, I'd encourage you to spend a few minutes in her shoes and think about how it must feel that you no longer want to spend the holiday with her.  She is no longer your #1 family priority, your BF is.  That is probably normal, but it does hurt.  She's probably saying to her friends "Sister never wants to spend the holidays as a family anymore, she just wants me to tag along with her and her boyfriend to his family.  Ugh, why can't we just celebrate a holiday like we always have?"[/quote]

We're not christians so we have never celebrated Christmas. We have always attended Christmas dinners with christian friends just to spend the holidays with them and enjoy the season.

When the BF and I get married, we'd spend Christmas with his family since my family doesn't celebrate christmas and would not expect us to join them.[/quote]

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