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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you admit it to people? Have you told your parents?

I was raised by a couple of monsters -- she's a psychopath and he's an alcoholic. My father recently apologized to me for not protecting me and my brother from her when we were kids. However he refused to take ownership of his own abuse.  Something inside me said screw it, I don't care about  either of these people. They're not worth my hate, but they certainly don't have my love.

I told a friend about the conversation in which my dad justified some of his worst behavior.  She said it must hurt to have someone I love do that, and i said I don't love him.  "Oh, of course you do," she said.

But I don't. I don't know how anyone could love those people.

Is it socially unacceptable to say you don't love your parents? Why? I would think we can believe people when they talk about their own feelings.  [/quote]

OP my father was an alcoholic-- my parents divorced young and I barely saw him growing up. My mother was/is emotionally unstable-- she was alternately abusive, neglectful, and remorseful. It screwed me up, frankly.

I tried to explain this to another relative- in my case, it's a lack of attachment and a deep well of anger. I am completely estranged from my father- he's never seen his grandson. My mother-- we speak once every few months and I keep it superficial.

There are points in human development where we bond with our parents...if they are abusive, neglectful, or negligent it complicates our feelings and our development. I will say that [b]when I had my own child, witnessed his vulnerability and his need for affection and security, I began to truly mourn what I didn't have[/b]-- I also began to feel some contempt for my parents.[/quote]

This sums up my experience as well.

OP, I don't love my remaining parent.  I recently made an offhand remark about her being a "terrible person" and the person I was speaking to was in complete shock, which was obvious from the person's facial expression and body language.  Most people love their parents and can't fathom the idea that some people do not.

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