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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an Indian American woman who was raised by really traditional and conservative Indian parents. At 24, I am now almost exclusively attracted to blonde super preppy Americana boys.

A part of it feels natural; I went to an all white high school. The other feels strange. Why don't I want to date Indian guys?

I'm so confused! [/quote]

OP you sound like me at that age only I'm AA.  when I was older ( 30)  I discovered my preference was because like you I had come of age surrounded by white males, the only AA males were related to me. I just didn't see my own as something to see as attractive as a potential partner. Does that make sense?
Anyway once I recognized that it helped me broaden my horizons, and if I'm to be 100%  I am no longer attracted to those race which is ok with me, given this country's current climate I want a husband who understands how it is  to the core without me needing to teach him, but that' s a different conversation.[/quote]

Another AA woman here and I agree with you. I recently went on a date with a guy(I've dated outside of my race frequently) and he brought up a situation with police and racism. My first thought was "he just doesn't get it". While I am definitely open to dating white men, I feel like other minorities are more relatable. [/quote]

African woman here.  I find AA men as ignorant where gender is concerned as white men are where race is concerned.  Perhaps because I see myself as a woman first and black second (black means nothing where I come from), I find I can't tolerate AA men's poisonous attitudes towards women and their lack of traditional family values.[/quote]

Research has been showing this not to be true wrt the family values thing with black men. More devoted as fathers once they are married to the mothers and so on. [/quote]

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