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Has the OP chimed in with her reflections?

Internalized racism may be an issue. Wanting to escape all of the traditions embedded in an Indian-Indian union could be another. There could be something else that's present in this population of blonde, Preppy men that intrigues the OP. We can't know.

I appreciate the input from several AA women on this thread (especially the African poster). I hope the broader audience was listening because I don't usually hear this level of honesty outside of sister circles. (I'm black, too.) My life experience doesn't require citation or significant sample size. The exposure I've had to black men throughout my life has taught me what those PPs have shared. I've heard the African perspective repeatedly. Most of my African girlfriends have ended up with men from the Caribbean, for example. [b]There's something about the legacy of slavery and the history of the black family in the U.S. that burdens AA men (generally). It's rare and wonderful to find a man who's really done the internal work required to overcome it. Listen or not, it's real.[/b]

I do hope the OP comes back and shares her thoughts on this. It's an honest question. Good on her for thinking about it.
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So well said. I too find that the black people whom I meet who are immigrants from Africa or the Caribbean have a "lightness" to them. I think we seriously underestimate the legacy of slavery on AA lives, marriages, and families. I also don't think that this is something that cannot be overcome. There are many AA families and marriages that are successful and I think that a religious foundation and community that supports these families is helpful. 
I don't know about a preference for someone who is outside of your race means you have a problem, but I would explore what it is you think about Indian men. Have you ever given an Indian man a chance? I'm not Indian, but I think they are very attractive and driven which is also attractive. I think there are so many issues with interracial couples. I love when a couples withstands the test of family, society, and cultural differences. A love that cannot be rattled is a beautiful thing.[/quote]

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