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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an Indian American woman who was raised by really traditional and conservative Indian parents. At 24, I am now almost exclusively attracted to blonde super preppy Americana boys.

A part of it feels natural; I went to an all white high school. The other feels strange. Why don't I want to date Indian guys?

I'm so confused! [/quote]

OP you sound like me at that age only I'm AA.  when I was older ( 30)  I discovered my preference was because like you I had come of age surrounded by white males, the only AA males were related to me. I just didn't see my own as something to see as attractive as a potential partner. Does that make sense?
Anyway once I recognized that it helped me broaden my horizons, and if I'm to be 100%  I am no longer attracted to those race which is ok with me, given this country's current climate I want a husband who understands how it is  to the core without me needing to teach him, but that' s a different conversation.[/quote]

Another AA woman here and I agree with you. I recently went on a date with a guy(I've dated outside of my race frequently) and he brought up a situation with police and racism. My first thought was "he just doesn't get it". While I am definitely open to dating white men, I feel like other minorities are more relatable. [/quote]

African woman here.  I find AA men as ignorant where gender is concerned as white men are where race is concerned.  Perhaps because I see myself as a woman first and black second (black means nothing where I come from), I find I can't tolerate AA men's poisonous attitudes towards women and their lack of traditional family values.[/quote]

Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience, which will probably be quite unpopular in these threads even if it rings quite true (as an obviously broad generalization)[/quote]

Thank you.  I knew that my experience-based opinion would be unpopular and attacked as a stereotype-laden lie, but I am not going to be intimidated.  There is something very wrong with the majority of AA men's views on women and family.  Everyone knows it and it shows in real life.  [/quote]

You know the majority of AA men (in order to form an opinion on what they all think about women and family)? Amazing![/quote]

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