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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wrote about this on another thread. When we were dating (3.5 years) I slept on a twin bunk (more like a toddler sized bed though, DH didn't fit) in DH's childhood room and he slept on the floor in a different room. When we got married and came back for our first married holiday, I saw that same twin bed and I flipped my shit. Even more incredible, they had made DH a bed on the floor in the other room too! We only spent Christmas eve and then left. I made DH sleep on that twin with me that night too. They knew why we'd left so quickly without spending the weekend. Next time we visited, there was a new queen bed waiting for us!  [/quote]

Aww, this just sounds like they didn't have room. You guys should have just gotten a hotel instead of having them buy a new bed for what I presume to be infrequent visits. [/quote]

We are there monthly. It's very frequently. [/quote]

So?  You suck it up for the weekend and afterwards, have DH tell his parents you'd (together) prefer to stay at a hotel for visits from now on, since they can't accommodate you.  You don't throw a tantrum like a spoiled princess.[/quote]

NP. She probably would have rolled with it better if they hadn't put DH *in another room.* How very insulting to separate a married couple![/quote]

Jesus, people just look for something to get insulted about.  Maybe the other room is bigger, maybe it's carpeted and therefore more comfortable, maybe it's quieter and the ILs thought he'd be more comfortable there.  Maybe after this woman has been in their lives for 4 years, they just forgot that how they view her needs to be updated after the wedding.  People make mistakes.  [/quote]

They "forgot" that their own son and DIL got married?  Ha.  No they did not.  They didn't need to get a new bed, that would have been over the top.  But probably better to offer - "We've got the twin bed for one of you, let us know if you would like a sleeping bag in that room or if one of you would prefer to sleep on the couch.  Then let the newlyweds decide.[/quote]

I didn't say they forgot their son got married.  I said maybe they forgot they needed to update how they relate to her.  When you know someone for x number of years, sometimes it takes a hot minute to realize that the way you used to interact with that person should be different after a major life change like marriage.  People do stupid things without thinking sometimes.  It doesn't necessarily translate to evil intent that necessitates throwing a hissy and passive aggressively leaving a visit early.  I'm not saying you just keep quiet and sleep in separate beds forever.  How about instead, your husband (you know, their SON) takes a look at the sleeping arrangements and says, "wait, mom, why do you have us in separate rooms?  we'd like to sleep together."  Oh right, I forgot on this board, people would rather manufacture insult and storm off instead of talking to each other like f*&$#@ grownups.[/quote]

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