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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is fascinating.

What does he like about Trump?[/quote]

OP, so much sympathy for you.  My mom and my dad cancel each other out at the polls every year, but they don't discuss politics at home.  I dated a Republican for a long time in my youth and tolerated all kinds of political differences between us.  But, in the end, I decided that many of his views were a reflection of large differences in our underlying values (equality vs. misogyny) and our assumptions and perceptions about the world and people around us, and thus, we weren't a good match.  Since you're already married, perhaps you'll just have to say explicitly, we'll really have to agree to disagree.  If you have kids, I think it's important that you say out loud and repeatedly that you disagree with his views and why.  Hopefully, you two can arrive at an agreement that it's better just not to discuss.

If you feel like his political views are a reflection of underlying values that affect you and your marriage, I would focus more on his behavior/actions in the marriage rather than his words -- is he making misogynist/sexist assumptions about who does what?  That's a problem you can address without politics.

In the meanwhile, please DO tell more about why you think your husband likes Trump.  I can't for the life of me understand this phenomenon.

I'm convinced it's the culmination of years of really suck-ass history teaching across the country.  My kids are getting less and less basic civics at the young age, and none of their peers ever read a real newspaper or outlet (and no, BuzzFeed lists do not count as news...)  That and a combination of people who really can't contemplate Hillary Clinton for President, which I think has a largely sexist underpinning (even among women detractors....)

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I think the main thing he likes is that Trump "speaks his mind."  DH found Obama to be a huge disappointment because he talked so much about not being partisan and political, and DH feels liked to.  He thinks that, at least with Trump, what you see if what you get.  He also things that Trump would be strong on foreign policy and cannot possibly be as extreme as the things he sometimes says given his massive business successes.

On the Muslim thing, he thinks it is overstated since Trump only said temporarily until a system is worked out.  He thinks it is hypocritical for people to get so outraged over that one statement when racial profiling is alive and well through America (he's a minority).[/quote]

Liking him because he "speaks his mind" and what you see is what you get is fundamentally incompatible with thinking he says things he doesn't believe.

And your DH's solution to systemic racism is more racism?

Your DH has issues.[/quote]

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