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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know what things led up to the estrangement or what methods or attempts have been made towards conflict resolution, but this has been my experience as an estranged mother....my estranged son makes no attempt to talk to me in person, I only receive belligerent txt telling me his side of things and refuses to talk face to face. I find texts and emails the worst form of communication,as it omits hearing tone of voice and seeing body language, so the reader typically assigns their own emotion to the written words and in cases where there is strained relationships, the assigned emotions are usually less than favorable.  Long story short, there are always two sides to every story and each side needs to examine their own behaviors, for there are usually deep hurts and offenses felt on both sides leading up to volcanic eruptions and estrangements, It's rarely one-sided! Children come out of the womb with no instruction manuals attached and parents do the best they know how at the time, with their own set of hang ups from the way they were raised, and the difficulties they face in adulthood add to the mess. There are no perfect parents. In 2015, there are so many resources out there for help and if we are willing to avail ourselves of the help, good might come of it. Relationships are not a one way street and of course both parties must be willing to listen and allowed to be heard. I had a toxic mother and we still face conflicts in our relationship, but she was a far greater grandma to my kids than she was a mother to me. Blood is thicker than water and family should not be kicked to the curb unless there is criminal behavior involved, in my opinion, for [b]substitute grandparents will never display the loyalty to your child that relatives do[/b], instead they will be in their lives today and gone tomorrow and the child will suffer loss upon loss of short term attachments. Moreover they will learn the same disregard for their parents that is being modeled to them, and one day the people doing the estranging may find themselves on the other side of the fence scratching their heads wondering how this happened for they never considered the effects of karma. It's all about communication, attempts at conflict resolution, understanding and forgiveness. Give it a try. If that fails, then the estrangement is justifiable. [/quote]

No. That line right there explains a bit why your son may have excluded you from his life. Families form in all different kinds of ways and blood doesn't trump all. [/quote]

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