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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I'm surprised by how tone deaf some of these responses are.

Look, I get it. We chose to move. It's the best decision for our family. We acknowledge that we will not be seeing our relatives stateside much, and we accept that as a consequence of our decision. The pros far outweigh the cons.

Of course my dad doesn't *have* to visit us. It should go without saying that he is his own person and he isn't obligated to do anything. I am saddened that he has stated outright he will not come to visit us, ever. He has time, money, good health, is still relatively young and has virtually no obligations. We'll visit him when we can, but we'll both be working and looking after a small child (and we plan to have another child), so we may not be as available/flexible as he is. My dad will miss out on seeing our new home and getting to experience a new place he would probably like.

It's easy when it's not your family to say "get over it." I will get over it,  but he just told me this and I'm not a robot devoid of human emotions. I am saddened and disappointed that he has completely written off a visit and decided it's not worth it. It is what is is, but it still sucks.

My MIL is in her 70s and has flown to see us in DC twice, 24 hours total flight time each time. She doesn't love flying either, but she wanted to see us and realizes that the flight doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. I wish I could say the same about my dad. Clearly his priorities are very different. 
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Twice over how many years?  I asked you why you are not planning to stop in LA since most planes stop anyway.  I would be insulted if you expected me to fly round trip cross country then within 1 week you flew into LAX.  [/quote]

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