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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, I agree with most of what you said except the part of never marrying someone with a huge student loan debt. In this day and age where Masters are a dime a dozen with women, it is virtually impossible to find the majority of well bred women to be without student loans unless her family had money. From a financial standpoint, based off what you said women who have grad degrees and over 100-200k in student loans would never have a chance to be married to a good provider. That's wrong.

There is a lot of responsibilities as a woman/mother and it is well known that mothers have it harder than fathers no matter how good the father is. The real problem is that men no longer feel obligated to be the breadwinner, but even that isn't the real issue. it's how messed up society has become with trying to make everyone equals when in fact that's just not realistic. People forget that marriage is hard work and refuse to work for something they took vows for years ago. People give up when the going gets tough.

I would never marry someone who believed in divorce as the solution for when the going gets tough. Marriage is work EVERY single day. [/quote]

Do you think it makes sense to go to grad school and rack up ONE HUNDRED to TWO HUNDRED THOUSAND DOLLARS in loan debt and then not pursue a serious career? 
That is CRAZY.

I think men marry women like this all the time. But it's gigantic financial loss, and it's not a smart move as a woman to hope that someone will marry you and not hate your guts after they find out that you don't really want to pay that debt back. You don't have to get a useless masters to prove that you are "well bred." Although I do agree that many women feel pressure to do so, and that's extremely sad and causes a great deal of pain and suffering.

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