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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If there is one thing I have learned from reading DCUM, it is that women despise men who are unemployed. [/quote]

Wouldn't you? It's a tale as old as time that men should be the breadwinners. But recent Forbes poll indicated that 29% of American households have a female as the major breadwinner. They don't take into account however the different percentages of single working mothers, lesbian parents, or heterosexual married working mothers. [/quote]

Yes, women despise men who are unemployed. If you're trying to wrap your head around it as a man you should imagine having sex with a 60 year old, hairy, 400 pounder.

That said, women have responsibilities that they often shirk, too. Like giving up on marriage when things get tough way too soon (women do initiate most divorces, and if you are a regular reader on this board you can also see that for yourself clear as day).

So, I can see why many men don't feel the duty and responsibility around being a "provider" in the modern climate - for many men, it can be a life-ruining path if the wife starts to feel dissatisfied with the marriage for more than a year or two.

In my opinion, men should be honest with themselves about the fact that no matter how promising a career a woman seems like she is embarking on, he should expect to be the main provider no matter what. He should definitely NOT marry a woman who has a shit ton of student loans.

And the vast majority of women should be realistic about the fact that they basically have 2 options: stay at home with kids or work a mommy job while kids are small.

Adulthood means responsibility. That is why people are so angry at gender roles - because gender roles imply adulthood and duty. People want to imagine that they can have a fantasy life. [/quote]

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