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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I've read this whole thread and I think, with all my kindness, that you are being kind of rude.  People are very territorial with food because food is personal.  Your MIL is hosting a T'giving dinner that she probably spent some time planning and laying out. She knows what she's going to serve, and she knows all the pieces of the meal that fit together.  Bring what she asked you to bring to fill the gap, or bring nothing as she suggested.  When you bring something and insist on having it because "it's not Thanksgiving without it", you are telling her that what she made is not good enough. You are a guest in her house. Act like one.

Yes, it's rude of her to tell you it's not part of the family tradition.  But you are not attending a family potluck.  This is HER dinner at HER house.  Be a guest.  Eat and smile.  If you must bring something, bring flowers or some chocolate for the hostess.  You aren't entitled to having a meal the way you want it at someone else's house. [/quote]

Oh, come on, PP. Everybody knows Thanksgiving is about eating your favorite traditional foods. This is not news! OP's MIL is intentionally making her feel like  a stranger in a strange land. There is no other explanation. My MIL is a similar piece of work. When I hosted the first time for DH's family, she insisted on having and eating STOVETOP stuffing instead if my Nana's cornbread dressing. I happily obliged and put the glutinous mass in a bowl on my table. Turns out my Nana's dressing is now served on the family table by my SIL even when DH and I do not attend. The family tradition changed when I joined the family.  This is what family means, room for everyone.

I was fortunate that I had the good manners to serve MIL's stovetop because my mother thankfully raised me right and set the example. Being from the deep south, mashed potatoes, for example, have never been a part of my family's traditions, but I can tell you that my mother happily makes and serves them every Christmas because she knows they are important to DH. This is what families do. [/quote]

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