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Forgive the ignorance PP, but what do you mean by cradle-catholic?

23:47, Thank you! Posting on this forum and reading the feedback helped me realize that if we opted not to go through the Catholic church knowing we want to raise Catholic fundamental children would be a severe detriment.

Has anyone been able to marry in the Catholic church in under 6 months?

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Yes, I know several couples who were married in the church in under 6 months - myself included (DH and I were married 4 months to the day after we got engaged).  You might have to be willing to make sacrifices regarding the day, the priest, the time, etc.  You need to present yourself as being willing to accommodate THEIR schedule, as opposed to making demands -- in which case they will say, well, if you just wait longer you can get your "saturday at 4pm" time slot (or whatever it is you are envisioning).  Tell them you will work around any available slot, that you will do your marriage weekend prep ASAP and be very quick to satisfy any other requirements.

Also, and this is important but may be a difficult topic to broach....most (as in 99%) couples are living together or otherwise sexually involved.  Priests love it when couple is actually dedicated to waiting for marriage, and might be more willing to work with you for a sooner date.   Though I don't know, maybe this is not a huge issue for you....and the priest might not like you putting pressure on him in this regard.

Lastly, it can be difficult to put together a wedding in a short amount of time, especially in the DC area.  You should keep a VERY open mind and be as creative as possible, and recognize that you just want to be married, and the other things are truly insignificant.....like making sure you have the "perfect" venue, dress, cake, photographer, etc. etc.  My DH and I decided to use a lesser-known church, bring in an outside priest who knew us and was willing to say the wedding, and we used the church hall (my mom did the decorations) for a small informal reception.   Flowers were from the grocery store (my mom and sister arranged them into bouquets), the caterer was just the one who was available as opposed to our first choice, bridesmaids dresses were off the rack at Ann Taylor, my gown was also just one off the rack, we bought boxed wine and beer and a friend took pictures.  We didn't make programs and didn't hire outside musicians.  It was all very low key and low drama - which suited me perfectly - but it wouldn't have worked if I had a dreamy-princess-vision of what my wedding should have been like.

Yes, you can probably have anyone you want participate in the Mass in whatever way you'd like.  Talk to the parish wedding coordinator.

ps - "cradle" Catholic means someone who was born into a Catholic family and has been Catholic their whole life.  As opposed to a convert or a re-vert.[/quote]

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