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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've answered the question - most of us don't trust our children's teachers and lie to protect our kids. There are ways to handle test anxiety, minor speech and language problems, etc at home without involving teachers. They just judge the children and then set lower expectations for them so the less information that the teacher has the better. We can handle minor issues with tutors and therapists on our own without the teachers having a clue.

I made that mistake once sharing information with the teacher and actual was dumb enough to believe that she actually cared about my daughter and will never do that again.

Also, teachers lie a ton to cover their own ass and a lot of them have a G-d complex and think that we should accept everything that they say at face value.

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It sounds like Mr. Sick on Test Day's parents lies backfired if their intent was to protect him from the teacher knowing that he has test anxiety.

Also, if the teacher doesn't know your DC is in speech therapy, what do they think is going on? Not so much why Larla leaves school a half early once a week. That could be for a variety of reasons. But rather, if you notice a speech issue, doesn't the teacher, too? Or does your DC simply not speak in class? That "solution" would also be a problem.

See, in the end, the lie you tell the teacher often has to be guarded by your child. That's a heavy burden. You've also put up a barrier between your family and a potential advocate by assuming that the teacher will misuse information about your child. When my older DD was diagnosed with generalized anxiety in HS, I gave the counselor permission to tell her teachers and prepared a sheet for them that explained what the condition was and how it would and would not impact her. This was at a pressure cooker MCPS and we had no negative outcomes from telling teachers the truth. In fact, more than a couple pulled her aside to share that they or a loved one had the same condition and she would be okay. This isn't surprising, giving that teachers are also human beings with children and siblings of their own. Some may have had your DC's condition growing up and would be a good role model. But you'd rather believe the worst "because the echo chamber of DCUM's Kids with Special Needs Forums says so"[/quote]

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