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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did she lie? I think it's normal to not get into every gory detail about your prior sex life.

"I remember him asking me if there was anything in my past that could be an embarrassment to our future."

It sounds like you're marrying a guy from a pretty snooty background. This isn't a question that regular guys ask.

I am a guy, and I don't think this really needs to be a big deal, but if you want to marry into some high-society family, where keeping up appearances means everything, get used to being judged and critiqued. [/quote]

A lie of omission is a lie. And yes, if you introduce your ex-boyfriend, with whom you had threesomes, to your current boyfriend as your "good friend" - that does count as a lie. That's not a gory detail.

And asking if there were anything potentially embarrassing, and having her not tell him about the ex and the threesomes, thus allowing some drunk ex-friend of hers to blurt it out in public? That would embarrass anyone, not just people from snooty backgrounds. Forewarned is forearmed. He gave her the chance to be open and honest. Had she been, the drunken episode in the bar wouldn't have embarrassed either of them.

And if you think that having some loud drunkard talking about your sexual past in public isn't embarrassing to almost everyone? You must have a very thick skin indeed. [/quote]

It's only a lie if you think that there is some shameful about a threesome. Not everyone is that uptight.

On the other hand, she should have mentioned that her "good friend" was a boyfriend at some point. That would have made the threesome revelation less problematic.

Unless her good friend is already acquainted with her fiance, I don't think it will be that big of a deal. The worst case would be if they were coworkers or friends. Guys usually don't like it when their girls have slept with people that they know.[/quote]

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