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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP a lot of folks are jumping on you but I defend your position. Most times the sibling that is not available, is totally not available, emotionally, physically and financially.  You have offered money, it is TOTALLY RESONABLE, for you to ask about costs.  For them to claim that you upset the movers, is a bunch of bullshit.  You cant help it if your husband cant take off of work right now, thats what happens when you start a new job! Nor can you help the fact that you have a SN child.  You cant have just anyone watch your child.  [/quote]

^ +1. And do NOT give them a dime directly. It is perfectly fine to lay for costs directly and that you can verify.

And for the asshole who wrote this
"You chose to have a child...whether you knew it was going to be a SN kid or not, it was a choice. You chose to move away. The two sibs are up to their eyeballs in the minutiae of elder care and it is far more challenging than simply raising a kid."

"Simply raising a kid"? Your bitterness is so obvious. Sorry life didn't work out the way you wanted it to.  Seek therapy. 
OP, do NOT listen to bitter psychos. And no, do not jeopardize your husband's job and do not just leave your kids with anyone because it's more convenient for those who don't give a damn about their care. I do, however, agree that you should explore going there for a weekend -- plan out some strategies to make it less daunting for your husband. This time period is going to be uncomfortable for everyone involved (I have been there, SN child, distance, etc.). Spread it around-- it will never be fair and the hometown team will NEVER think you've done enough. Oh well. Only you have to live with if your actions.[/quote]

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