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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I do think my family thinks we don't spend enough on ourselves (like [b]making fun of my ikea curtains[/b]) yet they also think its normal to not be able to pay your CC balance each month. My mother will announce each year (usually in March or April) that she "finally paid off Christmas!!"

My poor husband I'm afraid is never going to win with them. He is not going to trade NPR for Fox News. I think he's really good about not bringing up politics. The issue is that they bring it up - and we just say nothing rather than vehemently agree.[/quote]

Everything you've said included the bolded part above make me think it's because you don't live like they do, you've made different choices, you have accumulated more wealth than they have and they feel threatened by this and jealous.  I don't know if there's an answer to this, other than showing an interest in their lives and asking questions rather than talking about yourselves, [b]which is too bad because you should be able to be yourself around family![/b]  [/quote]

OP here. This is what really bothers me. Also, most of my mom's most recent complaints were pretty cruel about my husband (but only spoken privately to me) basically saying that he acts like he is smarter than them and they don't like spending any time with him. I'm not saying my husband is perfect by any stretch, but he is inherently a good person and he is my best friend. My mom's words were extremely extremely hurtful to me. When I told her that, she basically said that she could "suffer silently" no longer and she had to tell me. So NOW what?[/quote]

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