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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I could have written this post. Hang in there. It will get better.

My DS with ADHD/HFA enrolled in the AAP center for 3rd grade. We had met with the teachers and asked a lot of questions before sending him, and were assured that they could handle kids like him. However, the woman who would have been his teacher left over the summer and we were not informed of the change. She was replaced by a 1st year teacher who had no special ed experience.

When we saw the class assignments posted on the front door of the school prior to the first day, we didn't recognize the teacher's name and wondered what had happened. Did the teacher we talked to in the Spring get married over the summer and change her name? We had no idea that he was now assigned to someone who had only done student teaching. By that point, DS was so excited to go to the center, that we sent him. He did fine for the first month or so, but then we started to get phone calls and emails that his behavior was becoming a problem. He has an IEP, but in reality he was receiving very little special ed support in the classroom and his anxiety was causing him to act out. The only way the inexperienced teacher could deal with him was send him to the principal. In meetings, it was clear that staff could/would not devote the special ed resources he needed. It was clear that they thought an AAP kid should only need minimal organizational help or preferential seating. (This center is an overcrowded Title I school).

His bus driver had also mentioned to me that DS's teachers were making his behavior situation worse by getting in his face all the time and publicly shaming him. This angered me, but after I learned that he was being secluded in a small, windowless room away from his classmates for much of the day, I scheduled an appointment with a child psychiatrist. The psychiatrist told me to get him out of the AAP center as soon as possible. The next day, we put him back at his base school - where everyone was wonderful, welcoming, and very supportive.

He is now doing much better in general ed at the base school. If we had kept him at the AAP center, I'm sure they would have eventually pushed for placement in an emotionally disturbed school. However, his outbursts stemmed from frustration caused by lack of special ed services that he should have been receiving. They just didn't want to deal with a 2E kid.

If your son was not violent before going to the AAP center, he may be better off at the base school. Anxiety may be what's causing him to act out. Talk to staff there and see what they recommend. Good luck to you. I know what you're going through is torture.[/quote]

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