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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don't even know if there is an LD at this point.  We know there's an anxiety problem.  But we don't know whether that's making her miserable all on its own or if there's an inattention issue that's contributing to her anxiety.   The pediatrician recommended we wait until she's closer to 7 for an evaluation for ADHD-inattentive, because (as he said), it's pretty hard to tell the difference between 6 and inattentive.  The teacher notes that she's distractable, but then again says that lots of kids are at this age.  She performs at or above grade level in everything (but that's not surprising, she's always been pretty "ahead" on academic stuff).  We're really concerned that she's so miserable and that she *feels* like she's not able to do the work, even though she is able to do it.  And that she hates school.
If we do move her to private school, I want it to be a place that's very warm and nurturing and that has the capability of dealing with mild LDs or ADHD, so that if that is what this turns out to involve, we don't then have to move again.  Transitions are so hard for her, I don't want to do it more than necessary. 
And I do appreciate everyone saying "get the evaluation".  I admit I'm a little scared to do it, so I'm very willing to go with the teacher and pediatrician recommendations to wait it out a while longer.  But I'm also wary because I know that often girls (especially bright girls) can have mild LDs that go unnoticed because they behave in ways that aren't disruptive.  [/quote]

There's a public school with a good "reputation" (test scores) in Bethesda that seems to make learning miserable for a surprising number of kids. We are in private but I was recently having lunch with a bunch of moms from this school as we are in the neighborhood and they were talking about how every year a bunch of kids in the lower grades flee for private and are in very bad shape by the time they leave. This isn't the typical I want my child to thrive and have every opportunity discussion. The kids they were talking about were at a point where they felt horrible about themselves. I don't know if you're at this school but in case you are I would think carefully about the possibility of whether the environment there is just too stressful and that your child doesn't have LDs or other issues but is reacting appropriately to having that kind of stress at such a young age.

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