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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have never read this book or any like it but I used to do fairly well with women before I got married and I don't know exactly what negging is but acting aloof / like you are doing the woman a favor by paying attention to her absolutely works, and the hotter she is the better it works.

Women will say they want to be pursued, but eagerness is often perceived as desperation. So you have to get the woman to *want* you to pursue her, but then come close to ignoring her and she's yours. If she thinks you have better options than her she wants you more.

Even self aware women who can see through the bullshit (usually) can be susceptible to this with the right guy. And I don't mean *right* in the sense one guy can get good enough at this to make any woman fall for him, I mean a given man for that given woman, if he goes the aloof route rather than the attention giving route, will be much more successful. [/quote]

New poster, guy here, yeah, this. I never read that stuff, seemed contrived to me and I didn't need the advice, but I knew one guy in particular who did, and as far as I could gather from him the whole point is to just not obsess about any one prospect and keep different irons in the fire, have fun, see what happens.

[b]So if girl1 is making your life difficult, just go hang out with girl2 for a while and eventually girl1 comes around. Which is basically how most young attractive confident guys operate anyway when they are in the fooling around, not thinking about marriage phase of life. Not being a jerk, but just being confident that the sea is full of fish. It's really about having lots of options or, in the meantime, pretending like you do, which is a very successful strategy in all "meet markets" including job interviews, dating, etc. 
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The problem is that the most visible/vocal proponents seem to be douchebags with a lot of sexist baggage, plus they have made it way more complicated than it needs to be in an effort to sell books to lonely frustrated guys (and even workshops like tom cruise's character in magnolia! LOL). but the basic idea, to be or to appear to be someone with many desirable romantic options, is as old as time.

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This is all you need to read.  I was reasonably successful while I was single, this was the trick.  Find a girl you like, stop in and talk, pay a compliment, and walk away, go talk to another girl, it will raise your profile.[/quote]

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