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[quote=Anonymous]I don't see how posters are coming down so hard on OP. It sounds like her husband said "I want this degree to get XYZ job, I need you to help me by agreeing to take on  $150k debt and move away from your job, stop your education so I can do this. ." The conversation would have to include a return on the investment, in terms of money, time, effect on family.
So she does, dutifully, and he doesn't do anything with he degree while she is paying the debt down every month and working at a pace she never intended when she agreed to his plan.

I was in a similar position when my husband began an MBA program. The agreement was that I would not pursue a higher degree (in nursing) to allow him to work a flex schedule  and get this degree (we had small children so the burden of all their care was solely on me for 2 years in addition to working full time), take on what I believe was $75k in debt between tuition and lost earnings while he attended,  and the return on, yes, "our" investment was that our family would not need my higher earning from my advanced degree and I could work part time to make our lives easier because with this degree my husband would ( and did) double his pay.
There is no way I would have agreed to that 2 years of hell plus the debt if he returned to the same job level.

I think some posters are missing the part where it was a joint decision after they were married and involved some specific sacrifices on OP's part, namely her career and what is essentially joint debt when you are married [/quote]

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