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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I am a biglaw equity partner.  Couple of comments, the first being the most important:

1) If this is working for you and your family, and you are reasonably happy, then who cares.  But, the original post you are responding to - it was a woman who was feeling lonely and isolated from her husband.  That is a problem and its a problem regardless of whether you are big(fill in the blank).

2) Are you happy?  I can't tell from your post.  Thing with biglaw is, there are lots of people who complain about it, the hours, the pressure, the slog, but if you gave them a chance to dial it waaaay back and still live comfortably, they would decline.  They thrive off being busy, being in demand, being top of their game.  They would be unfulfilled working 9-5 and being a non-equity partner making 300k per year.  Is this you?  It's a hard question to ask and answer.  If you need this, then I am thrilled that you have found a partner who compliments this.  Again, you have nothing to apologize for - this is about making sure you and your family are happy.

3) I completely agree that gym time is crucial for a million reasons.  Still, you have to make it fit into a schedule that is respectful of family time.  The kids and only home for a limited time before and after school.  I hate 5am gym time, but its the sacrafice I make to having at least one meal a day with my kids.

All of this can be summed up with "If it works for your family, who cares what anyone else thinks."  It wasn't working for the original poster's family, so defending the husband isn't going to fix his marriage.[/quote]

That's just the point.  IT WAS working for the other poster's family.  That other poster just wanted a reason to complain and whine.  She didn't express any desire to give up any of the money or perks of being married to a big law firm partner.  She just wanted to impose total control over her husband.   She bought into the big law lifestyle and wants the bennies, but any inconveniences have to fall on her husband.  This is the typical post-feminist attitude of complete selfishness.[/quote]

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